Angry mom asks internet for advice after friend bans kids from foreign marriage

A mother seeks advice when her friend announces she is getting married on “the other side of the world” – and children will not be allowed to attend.

The woman who lives in Europe shared her dilemma with mumsnet as she revealed that her friend was planning to tie the knot in Australia.

the posters sunnysideup2020 Captioned the post “Friend’s marriages abroad, no kids… what should I do.”

In a post shared Tuesday, the mom shared more details, and her glee at the invite even before she realized it was a child-free event.

She said: “A good friend on the other side of the world is marrying her.
We were talking about how exciting it would be to reunite for the special occasion as she got engaged over the summer.

“I just got the invitation. It says no kids… and early last year I had a baby. She would be too young to live with anyone, especially in a foreign country.

“What should I say? Sorry can’t come because I have a baby? I mean she knows I do!!!”

She shared more details in subsequent posts, as she confirmed that she had met her friend in the UK, where they both lived, but since her friend was Australian in origin, she was having her wedding in her home country. .

She ran through some of the solutions, adding: “My daughter has never been with anyone and since we don’t have any friends or family around, she hasn’t been able to be with anyone. COVID and all.. . He’s not very social in that sense.”

And she admitted that she was “not comfortable” leaving her daughter with hotel childcare.

“DH [dear husband] And I plan to go with baby or child and treat it as a holiday with one stop at the wedding,” the mother said.

She also revealed that her daughter’s two-year-old’s birthday would be that week, so they could turn the trip into a big celebration.

She thought about bringing her mother-in-law in as a babysitter, but admitted it would be “quite expensive,” and she works, even though she said vacationing with the in-laws “won’t be the same.”

She said: “Her marriage is not in a part of Oz, I am personally interested, but I would have gone for her if it meant we could all go to the wedding.

“DH met her and her fiancé before. But no, I wouldn’t tell her not to come to DD’s care[deardaughterIdon’tthinkit’sfairUnlessheclearlyoffers”[deardaughterIDon’tthinkthat’sfairUnlessheoffersobviously”[प्रियबेटी।मुझेनहींलगताकियहउचितहै।जबतकवहस्पष्टरूपसेपेशकशनहींकरता।”[deardaughterIDon’tthinkthat’sfairUnlessheoffersobviously”

That being said, the mother said: “At first I’m not even sure I’ll be able to go through with COVID.”

While she estimated how difficult a long-haul flight would be with a “cranky” baby.

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Her plight attracted much sympathy and advice, with over 300 responses.

As the Welshmenad put it: “Yeah, you just don’t go. It sucks, but if she expects people to respect her children’s decisions, she has to accept that some parents will be unable to attend.” “

PleasantBirthday commented: “You just can’t go on. If she’s saying you can’t bring a baby, she should know that people can’t attend but she’s decided she’s okay with it.” So it will hardly be shocking. News.”

Queble wrote: “Just don’t go—no one can expect others to spend that much on their marriage or leave their kids behind!”

Blossom64265 suggested: “You simply refuse because of the child and wish her a wonderful marriage.”

“Well, you can’t go. It certainly won’t come as a surprise to him,” Thewhatsit said.

Sadly, the mother resigned herself to decline the invitation, asking for no exception, saying: “BTW I completely understand why children would not have children in marriages. And her invitation said that they want people to enjoy the day.. not take care of their kids.

“I used to think so. Now that I’m a mom I won’t ask people to come to my wedding except my little ones…

While mom didn’t specify which country she lives in, return flights from major cities in Europe cost hundreds of dollars per person.

In addition, flights often require stop-overs, meaning a trip to Down Under can take up to 29 hours, depending on the place of origin.

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