When the next house sold out, we were happy to find a new neighbor. My husband and I gave him a welcome gift.
They asked us three times about the property line, and we showed them the marker. He asked the people on the other side as well as those behind him.
Shortly afterwards, they set up a barrier between us and the other property line. Now they have installed steaks and strings so that everyone can know where their property is. They seem to be obsessed with property lines and they keep to themselves.
When my husband mows the lawn, he looks outside to make sure he lives on our property. When they are, it is very painful to be outside. I feel like an intruder when they’re on my deck, so I don’t go out on my deck anymore.
We have no children and have our own business in mind. We have very good relations with other neighbors.
It is unfortunate to have such neutral neighbors. That’s how they treat everyone in the neighborhood. I love our neighborhood However, having semi-friendly people at the front door is painful.
Abby, what do you say to such friendly but unfriendly neighbors? They make it clear that they do not want anyone to encroach on their property.
Unpleasant next door
Dear unhappy: Your new neighbors are, for whatever reason, anti-social.
When they come out to mow your husband’s lawn, he should give them a friendly wave and pay attention to what he is doing. If you feel that you are “interfering” with them using your deck, plant trees or some other obstacle to protect you from their point of view.
It is important for you to teach yourself to accept this couple rather than who you want them to be.
Dear Abi: I have been married for 38 years and have three older children and three grandchildren. My wife is a teacher, and my children are doing well.
I have always been unfaithful during marriage. My wife and children are skeptical but none of them say anything about it. I can’t live like this anymore. I feel very guilty, and I want to move to another country – my home country.
Should I tell my wife about all my affairs that I’m looking at someone else and I don’t want to be with her?
Made in New Jersey
Dear Read: And what is the alternative? Will you change your ways, give up the sincere work you have done for the last 38 years of your marriage and live in the United States? Somehow, I doubt it.
Yes, you should be equal to your wife. And when you do, don’t deceive yourself into thinking she’ll be glad to hear that her marriage has been a lie from the beginning. And don’t expect your kids to respect your choices – and are doing.
You owe it to your wife to make sure she is financially secure after you go. Considering what you are planning, this may be the only way you will be able to see yourself with your eyes when you prepare yourself every day.