Dad dragged for complaining about ‘babysitting’ his own child

Members of a popular Internet forum were furious after a father complained about his wife’s social life, and revealed how his mother intervened among the new parents.

In a viral Reddit post published on r/AmITheA**hole, Redditor u/Comfortable_load_452 (otherwise referred to as the original poster, or OP) stated that his wife had given birth to the couple’s first child two months earlier, but he Expressing her disappointment she was spending time with her friends, leaving him to “cradle” the infant.

Title, “[Am I the a**hole] When he and my wife got into an argument to take my mother’s side?” Viral Post Nearly 10,000 votes and 4,000 comments have been received in just 8 hours.

“As the baby turned 2 months old, my wife started trying to get back to her social life,” the original poster began. “Sometimes she’d bring the baby with her, but sometimes she’d expect me to babysitting.”

“My wife is a great mom and she really cares about our baby but it’s frustrating how she feels the need to go out,” he continued.

After mourning his efforts to regain a social life, u/Comfortable_load_452 said his own mother got involved: accusing him of being spineless, and assaulting his wife for her time outside the home did.

“One day while she was out shopping with a friend… I was babysitting and my mom went and asked where my wife was,” he wrote. “My mother got very angry with how my wife went out and she told me that I had no backbone to ask her not to call out and stay at home with the child.”

Redditors came to the rescue of a mother who was scolded by her mother-in-law two months ago for leading a social life despite having a baby.
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“My mom waited until my wife came back home and she started scolding her. It wasn’t a proud moment… and I really didn’t want my mom to get involved but my wife to get it from someone else.” Had to listen too,” he continued. ,[She] Told my wife that she is irresponsible and should cut back on her meetings with friends and stay at home to take care of the child as a proper mother does.”

“I agreed with my mother on all this and my wife is not talking to me,” he said. “She too now sleeps in the guest room and took the baby’s crib there too.”

Despite conventions and stereotypical jokes that fathers taking care of their babies without the mother’s help are simply taking care of babies, the label “babywife” can have adverse effects.

In an article titled, “Dads Watching Their Own Kids Ain’t Babysitting,” for every mother Author Jenny White dispels the notion that all fathers are incapable of taking care of their children.

White wrote, “To call a father a ‘baby’ devalues ​​the role fathers play in the lives of their children, which is just as important as the roles mothers can play.” I’m tired of the old-fashioned notion that mothers are Always Primary caregivers and only those who know how to properly raise a child.”

While the commentary around fathering “child care” has evolved over the past decade, and outlets including the Atlantic And Washington Post The issue has offered rival perspectives, with some fathers themselves continuing to perpetuate the stereotype.

During his original Reddit post, u/Comfortable_load_452 referred to seeing his 2-month-old as babysitting—some commenters were quick to call him out.

“Notice how you say taking care of your baby is babysitting?” Redditor u/dldoom wrote in the top comment of the post, which has received over 30,000 votes.

“You didn’t even mention how many times she goes out against you, but you want us to trust you’re ‘different’ to you?,” he continued. “Too bad your wife has two kids at home.”

Redditor u/Substantial-Fox-4905, whose comment has garnered nearly 18,000 votes, echoed that sentiment.

,[You’re the a**hole] To simply take care of your child referred to as ‘babysitting’,” he wrote.

In a separate comment, which garnered over 10,000 votes, Redditor u/Comfortable_Read3801 was adamant that the original poster is a parent, not a babysitter, and expressed his indifference to his mother for scolding his wife. also indicated.

“You and your wife decided to be a family [and] A team when you got married, even before the kid,” he remarked. “Your mom is extended family now, she should never feel comfortable ‘scolding’ your wife, especially in her own home.”

He said, “You are both the parents of that child.” “You’re not taking care of the kids, you’re the parent.”

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