Husband told in viral post trying to pay more salary to nanny

Thousands of commenters have stood in support of a husband after it went viral on a popular Internet forum on Wednesday when his explanation of why he wants to increase his nanny’s wages.


Titled “Nani Pay,” husband’s viral Post It initially appeared on Reddit’s r/antiwork and has garnered nearly 21,000 votes and over 2,400 comments in just 10 hours. Receiving 91 percent upvotes, the post’s author, Redditor u/suicidaholic, wrote that he and his wife make “above average” wages for where they live and the dilemma they’ve faced recently. is described.

Explaining that he and his wife employ part-time nannies to help with childcare and various housekeeping duties, the Redditor said he was surprised to learn that the nanny earns just $65 per day, no matter the number of hours she works. . (According to the original post, Nani works between 4 and 10 hours per day, several days per week.) Stating that Nani is his wife’s friend, the u/suicideholic pointed out that when she asked him to pay her higher wages. Proposed – and for that half of his 60+ mile daily commute – his wife disagreed and provided several justifications for the current low pay.


The Redditor also said that his wife doesn’t want to pay her nanny a higher wage for three reasons: she doesn’t have the car payment, it’s for another family, and she doesn’t pay the rent because she’s with the family. lives. However, the u/suicideaholic said he doesn’t care, and believes his nanny should make more money.

“IDGAF about these things,” he wrote. “She deserves more. She does the cleaning around the house like doing the dishes and laundry and does an excellent job with the baby and the baby loves that.”


last November, Care.com, a popular online marketplace for a vast range of childcare, senior care, tutoring and other services, published a report based on millions of job listings posted on its website. The report showed that, in the United States, the average hourly rate for a nanny is $15.30 per hour.

One Redditor said his wife disagreed when he suggested they pay their nanny for a higher hourly wage and part of her daily travel costs.
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However, the pay rates vary from state to state and to rural, urban and suburban locations. While Care.com reports that nannies in cities such as Charlotte, Detroit and Pittsburgh are paid close to the $15.30 national average, Los Angeles, Seattle, New York City and San Francisco paid an average of more than $20 an hour. goes.

Although hourly wages are subject to change based on factors, such as how many children a nanny will be responsible for and any additional responsibility beyond caring for those children, adjusting wages based on personal information can be considered discriminatory and illegal.


In an article explaining what types of information employees must keep private to prevent discrimination by employers, salary.com Lists an employee’s living conditions as something that can be used as leverage during salary negotiations. In his viral Reddit post, the u/suicideaholic wrote that his wife had to justify paying her low wages by pointing to her nanny’s lack of car payments and allegedly low living conditions on rent. Did the same.

A Redditor who commented on the viral post said that whatever is going on in Nani’s life should not correspond to her hourly wage, and that the original poster should fight to increase her wages.

“An employee’s bills, overhead and lifestyle have nothing to do with how much they should be earning,” wrote Redditor u/Spartacus980F. “Pay him properly.”


In the post’s top comment, which garnered 4.7K votes, Redditor u/silentstinker encouraged the original poster to raise wages by $65 per day, saying that finding a nanny your baby enjoys is priceless.

“Those who care for other people deserve to be paid more than the minimum wage,” he remarked. “Not everyone can work with kids or clean up your mess, this person wants to do it and does it well according to you, pay them more for the talent and endurance they have.”

Among the thousands of commenters offering similar advice, many took the viral Reddit thread as an opportunity to check out the character of the original poster’s wife. Redditors were disappointed that she was unwilling to budge on the nanny’s salary, and questioned her for not giving her friend more money to take care of her baby and home.

While others explained that the original poster stated that his wife earns upwards of $100 an hour and that she was making financial decisions for someone who makes little money throughout the day, one Redditor got straight to the point. – Inspired by the response of the author of the post.

“Wow. Your wife looks like she has an entitlement problem,” wrote Redditor u/AnUnquietHour.

“It’s possible,” replied the u/suicidaholic.