At the age of 13, he started a gaming profile to play fantasy games. Linda was happy to hear him talking to the other players on the headset. Middle school was difficult for him. The family had moved. It was a new school. He was depressed. He was in and out of therapy because he hated it. He just wanted to feel normal, but the therapy made him feel like he was “not human.”
Linda, Anne Dowd played. In the new movie on a large scale, She’s sharing things she remembers about her son because Gail, Martha Plumpton played. He asked. “Why do I want to know about your son?” Says Gail. “Because he killed me.”
Written and directed by Fran Cranes, on a large scale It’s a volcano, with four parents unimaginable. Years ago, Linda and Richard (Red Bernie’s) son opened fire on his high school classmates before going to the library and taking his own life. Gail and Jay (Jason IsaacThe son was one of the victims.
Nor is the couple sure what they are doing by attending the meeting. Excuse me? Acceptance? An explanation? His life is closed forever. Maybe the conversation could do something about their grief, the pain that has overwhelmed their lives in so many different ways.
“I knew I’d do it, because how can you do something extraordinary?” Dowd told the Daily Beast. But she was worried. The second thought was: Can I live up to the level of grief that honors this character? We’re talking about something that is deeply painful and many parents have passed away. There is a sense of real responsibility to get to the bottom of it.
Cranes was encouraged to write. on a large scale, In part, after 2018 shooting at Marjorie Stoneman Douglas High School. In Parkland, Florida, where. 17 students and staff members were killed.. He was listening to an interview on the radio with one of the victims’ parents and was so overwhelmed with emotion that he had to pull over and collect himself.
As he researched the school shootings and their aftermath, he discovered stories about the parents of the school shooters and the parents of the victims, in which he would end up in a dramatic way. on a large scale. With the Titanic performances of Dowd and Plumpton, the imaginary version of such a meeting becomes a special background to what it means to be a mother – especially after such a loss – and to grieve on the journey toward healing. How to be patient
Filming took place over two weeks at an episcopal church just outside Idaho’s Sun Valley. Before it began, David read. A mother’s account: Living after a tragedy., From the 2016 memo. Case Clybold, mother of Dylan Claybold., Who was one of two shooters in the 1999 Columbine High School massacre. In the book, Clebold is reminded of how his son was in his teens. She wonders if there are any signs that she has lost and acts like a mother to mourn the loss of a child who committed such a heinous and violent act.
“The case has gone through something unimaginable on the scale of its tragedy,” says Dowd. Linda goes through it. How do I keep it? I needed a friend. I needed to touch internally with a woman who lived in it and escaped.
In contrast, Plumpton found himself avoiding these accounts. “I didn’t want to study like that,” she told the Daily Beast. “I haven’t realized yet that there’s no way for me to estimate or connect with Gail’s world, which is to help with a real person’s experience. And I think I was afraid of being detached or removed from it. Will add the level of which I did not want.
What does someone like Gail want from such a meeting, sitting face to face with the woman who picked up her son’s killer? It is very complicated to say. There are forces beyond his control that bring him there. Her marriage is breaking up. Her doctor wants her to go, especially on Linda’s face, saying that the doctor thinks he can set her free.
“She’s being eaten alive with anger and slander,” Plumpton says. “I think she’s fighting herself, because she can’t imagine saying the words she should have said.” Not in a million years. And I don’t think she can imagine that Linda would have something to say that would fix her, that would answer her questions. But she can’t help asking. ”
The emotions of the meeting are as dynamic as reading on a Richter scale. There is politeness and cheerfulness. Everyone smiles and says thank you for the meeting. There is small talk and insolence, as lawyers have publicly apologized for. Gail starts to run around a bit and rejects, but gets hot when she starts telling stories about her son.
The gruesome details of the massacre are told. The idea of guilt and guilt is explored. What it means to be a parent – to be a mother – is passionately debated. Everyone cries. Everyone is screaming. Everyone changes. As you can see, you are surprised that, perhaps, there is a fake relationship, from parent to parent, on the sick, involuntary bond they share.
“As you can see, you are surprised that, perhaps, there is a fake relationship, from parent to parent, on the sick, involuntary bond they share.”
“I think she’s just getting tired,” Plumpton said of Gail. One thing I think man struggles with forgiveness is that if you do this or that you can forgive. Then you change your mind, and then you forget. Of course it’s not. Forgiveness is just the beginning, because you have to keep doing it. This is an attitude. It’s not a process, and you keep going back and forth. It is a process. It opens the door to an unseen world. This is terrible. That is what we are afraid of. ”
Both actresses have a hard time understanding what is going on in this room. That’s great. In some cases, the whole point of the meeting and the film is to realize that if things are too much, an explanation is possible even if it seems impossible.
“We’ve all experienced some degree of grief,” Dowd said. But I remember in the days of my life when there was deep sorrow – I would say in the death of my father that the world changes. You are in your world Tragedy is everywhere you look, of course. But I remember in my experience that people were going about their business. They do not know that the world has changed for you.
Linda is struggling with her place in this great tragedy. It makes him angry. It means her actions with the person she thinks she has increased, whom she thinks she knows. That means agreeing to the fact that she had to bury her son in secret. A proper place of mourning, shame.
Because of this, she wonders if she will ever be able to restore her memory of who she was, and if this is possible even in a world where she has suffered so much. But what’s the matter? They In one of the most powerful moments of the Beta movie, she says, “I know the world could be better without it. I can’t say I would.”
For Dowd, the key to understanding that emotion was when Linda said, “Does that make sense?” Because, for that, it does. “Our children live in our souls,” she says. “They are part of us.”
David’s eldest son is on Spectrum. “She taught me what listening is. And patience. Among many other things, this is the gift that this handsome boy has shown me. Then there is his daughter.” He taught me what happiness is, and Lack of fear. “Her youngest, who has been adopted and” has had a very difficult childhood, “teaches her daily.” She has taught me about trauma, how it feels and how it feels. happens. And that’s the way forward. These are deep gifts. ”
Linda really lives. It is worth noting that if her son had never been born, these children would have survived. The lives of these families would not have been ruined. It will not be so frustrating.
“But it wouldn’t have been better for Linda not to be with him in this world,” says Dowd. “I don’t know how this would be possible for a mother. Before I had children, I thought I knew what love was. I was raised in a loving home. I had a very loving husband. Yes. The child teaches you something else. It brings something else to you. I don’t even remember my life before my children. It just changes everything. ”
Then she raises a big question that resonates. on a large scaleAnd one that Plumpton often asks is how the character feels. She pauses and asks: “Does that make sense?”