An Internet thread caught the attention of many when a woman described how her partner prompted her to urinate in her cats litter box.
Titled, “Aita To Pee In The Cat Tray?,” Viral Reddit Post It initially appeared on the widely popular r/AmITheA**hole subreddit, and has garnered over 11,000 votes and 1,700 comments. Posted by Redditor u/throwcatpee, the thread’s author admitted that he used a throwback Reddit account to write the original post and admitted that “it’s so embarrassing.”
Stating that she is diabetic and is on a series of medications, one of which causes her to urinate “a lot”, u/throkatp stated that her partner has irritable bowel syndrome (IBS), which has caused her to sometimes- Sometimes you have to stay in the bathroom for 40 minutes. or long. She said that none of their positions had caused any problems in the past, but added that a few days ago, the couple reached an impasse.
u/throwcatpee wrote that her partner was recently suffering from an acute IBS episode and was in the bathroom for 40 minutes when he knocked on the door and told her he had to pee. 20 minutes later, the Redditor said he knocked again, and his partner informed him he couldn’t leave the bathroom. After an additional 15 minutes, u/throcatp said his bladder started to hurt, and he had one option left.
“My bladder hurts and I’m bursting and I thought cats would forgive me,” she wrote. “I pop a squat on the litter tray in the aisle and have a tinkle.”
“I then bag the litter tray and give it a complete refresh,” she said.
Frequent urination is closely linked to diabetes and the drugs that treat it. Due to the extra glucose in the blood, the kidneys of diabetics are forced to work longer to filter and absorb the extra glucose.
According to Mayo ClinicWhen the kidneys of diabetics fail to recover, excess glucose is excreted in the urine, which can lead to polyuria and potential bladder problems.
Polyuria is a condition that causes the body to urinate more than usual and to urinate excessively or abnormally large amounts. Diabetes.co.uk reports that this condition is one of the main symptoms of both type 1 and type 2 diabetes, and if left untreated, it can affect kidney function.
While the thread’s writer didn’t specify which diabetes medications she uses, u/throckatP acknowledged that one of her prescriptions causes frequent urination, and that it’s difficult to use the bathroom. After waiting more than an hour for .., she was down for her last resort. However, despite her explanation that she was experiencing bladder pain, u/throcatp stated that her partner was disgusted by her actions.
“He comes out…and says the bathroom is free and I tell him it’s ok,” she wrote in the viral post. “He gives me a strange look and I tell him what I did. He looks at me absolutely disgusting and says it’s rebellious.”
“I tried to tell him several times that I really needed to go and he said that I should learn to hold it better,” he said.
Other Redditors were far more understanding about the situation, and many criticized u/throwcatpee’s partner for his reaction to the embarrassing ordeal.
In the post’s top comment, which garnered 27.7K votes, Redditor u/Wren1101 showed his support for u/throwcatpee, and accused his partner of upholding standards he can’t hold himself to.
“That’s rich, coming from a person with IBS, telling you ‘you should learn to hold it better,'” he wrote. “It’s absolutely ridiculous for him to expect you when he knows he won’t be able to do it. He has double standards. [Not the a**hole],
Echoing those same sentiments, u/GizmaAzara posed an imaginary pose, saying that u/throwcatpee did what he had to do in a difficult situation.
He said, “He has IBS. He’d sympathize if the situation were reversed and I doubt he’d be able to hold onto it as long as you had.”
“So you did what you had to do in the best case possible,” he said.
Many more commenters on the thread were in support of the original poster, and as most pointed out, u/throwcatpi’s mate showed a clear lack of care for his condition and restroom needs.
“NTA,” wrote Redditor u/Kvxyo in a comment. “I find it more gross that he is aware of your situation and has shown no sympathy for it.”