Most family members assume they have a guaranteed invitation to a relative’s wedding, but a prospective bride took to Reddit’s “Am the A**hole to share that she’s lost her life because of a decades-old incident.” Didn’t want to invite Auntie.
in your post, which has 10,000 interactions, u/Ok_Imagination5621 wrote that she was talking to her sisters and mother about the guest list and said that she did not plan to invite her aunt, who was called “L”. .
an article published by Knot That said it can be complicated for a couple to weed out a potentially toxic family member, but it can be worth it if their presence will ruin the day.
Some of the pertinent reasons cited for excluding a family member from the wedding day include whether they make people in attendance uncomfortable if there is no way to save the relationship and if the couple can marry themselves. is paying for.
u/Ok_Imagination5621 wrote that her father died when she was a teenager. At her funeral, she said that she saw El with other mourners. Not feeling like talking, he gave her a small smile and shook hands before walking away.
u/Ok_Imagination5621 wrote, “As I was driving towards the car, my Auntie T came up to me angrily and angrily asked me to apologize to L for what I did.”
She learned that L told T that he gave her a dirty look and told her that no one wanted her there because she was gone.
When u/Ok_Imagination5621 told T that didn’t happen, T’s behavior changed and she said, “Oh well, it’s just L, she likes to stir the pot. Never mind babe.”
Later that day, another aunt, “K,” calls u/Ok_Imagination5621 to tell her that she needs to apologize to L. He told K what he told T, who said that L likes to stir the pot. Her mother asked her what was wrong when she saw him looking disappointed.
“I explained what happened to T and K and without missing a beat she says ‘oh it’s just L, she likes to stir the pot,'” u/Ok_Imagination5621 wrote. “I didn’t get an apology from T or K for yelling at me for what I didn’t do and I’m pretty sure my mom and aunt have talked about L’s behavior before because they all used the same phrase.” and each of them did just what it did.”
Since then, u/Ok_Imagination5621 has written that she hasn’t tried to bond with L, stating that she isn’t interested in socializing with someone who enjoys starting “drama”.
Although she has set that boundary, she has written that her sisters and mother told her not to throw her aunt out of marriage because of an incident that happened almost a decade ago. She wrote that she was beginning to believe that it was wrong not to invite her.
However, commentators supported u/Ok_Imagination5621’s decision.
u/LuvMeLongThyme commented, “She’s a well-known pot stirrer, and you don’t feel like pot stirring activities at your wedding.” “Now, everyone can forgive your aunt because ‘she’s like that.’ But, you OP, you’re an adult, and you don’t have to take any crap out of him.”
u/Sad_Ring_3373 echoed the sentiment and shared a line she used with her family.
“You’re free to tolerate their bulls**t as much as you want, I’m free to tolerate it as much as I care.”
Some wondered why family members believed and criticized what L was told on the day of the funeral.
“T, K and OP’s mother, I think, along with other family members, l are capable,” wrote u/hdmx539. “They need to call him out on his lies and give him the appropriate consequences.”