A money-stealing mom has gone under the microscope when her concerned husband reveals how his cost-cutting behavior ruined their son’s birthday.
Reddit’s “Am I the A**hole?” In a post shared on Munch, the worried father elaborated on how his wife recently “started saving money.”
But while it always pays to see the money, it appears she is taking things to an extreme, much to the dismay of her husband and two children. For example, it recently reduced the children’s allowance from $10 a week to just $3.
However, according to her husband, the mother’s most extreme cost-cutting measure comes to the fore when the family goes out for a meal together.
“She would buy food to bring to the restaurant to microwave,” he explained. “We’ve seen it before and have always turned it down. This results in a ruckus and we’ll be told to leave.”
Her husband said he has spoken to her and “told her that she needs to stop” and is free to order “whatever she wants”.
Unfortunately, his words seem to fall on deaf ears.
During a visit to his son’s “favourite steakhouse” for his birthday, he said he specifically asked his wife not to “bring any of his food to the restaurant.”
She initially appeared to go along with the idea. They arrived, sat down and ordered drinks. At the time, his wife excused herself for “using the bathroom.” Her husband thought nothing of it.
A waiter soon returned and picked up a “small salad” with his wife and took their orders. However, minutes later, one of the table staff was back with food none of them had ordered.
Then they started saying to the man’s wife “Ma’am, we can’t heat this up for you.” It quickly became apparent that she had sneaked in to talk to the kitchen staff about heating another meal. The husband said his two children were “embarrassed” by the incident and were forced to “apologise” for their behaviour.
According to the Post, his wife proceeded to remain “silent” for the rest of the meal and “didn’t touch the salad she ordered.” Later that evening, the husband said that he and his wife argued over the debacle but remained unrepentant, saying that “eating out is a waste.”
The father said that he had now moved into the empty room, with his wife seeing his reaction as inappropriate. Yet many on Reddit felt they had every right to be concerned.
Squinky75 commented: “She seems to be mentally unwell. Has she had a physical exam recently? This behavior is not normal.” Meanwhile, Riley125 theorized that she “might have some debt she doesn’t want to talk about and is trying to save money to pay it off.” Toss_It_Out_Tomorrow thought it might be the stress of the past few years in his mind. “This pandemic has done a lot to people besides transmitting the virus,” he said. “People are breaking down from the stress.”
BooBooKittyKat1 suggested it might be related to some work. “Maybe he lost his job, or something could happen at work,” he wrote. “Her behavior is definitely not normal.” Meanwhile, Tsh87 thought “she might have anxiety and being clingy is a coping mechanism for her. It’s a way for her to control when she feels like she doesn’t have any.”
Returning to the post, her husband offered his theory as to what it might be: “She regularly talks to a therapist,” he wrote. “There’s no debt and she doesn’t gamble. I think it could be because her brother is in debt and paying off debt.”
An alternative theory is that the man’s wife may fall into the category of low spenders. Speaking to TODAY, financial psychologist Brad Klontz explained that “low spenders go without what they can afford, and they have trouble enjoying their resources.”
However, Klontz says it can manifest itself in even more serious ways. “Severely less expensive neglect basic self-care,” he said. “They don’t go to the dentist or doctor because they don’t want to spend the money.”
Greeley Tribune has reached out to the father concerned for comment.