‘Nosy’ neighbor slammed for urging mom to put Tomboy daughter in pageants

A recent transplant from the UK to the US has been wondering whether she experienced a culture clash when she blew up at her “nose” neighbor, who was trying to persuade her to put her 11-year-old in a beauty pageant. Had been.

Redditors Massively Confirm That No, The Neighbor Was Just Rude In Respond Post In the Reddit r/AmITheA**hole forum, “[Am I the A**hole] As for asking my neighbor to focus on his work?” The original poster (OP), u/taekwondo beautyquin, earned more than 9,200 upvotes and 1,700 comments for his annoyance.

She tells that she is a single mother and had to go abroad for work. Although it took some time to adjust, she says her daughter regularly keeps in touch with her friends and family on Zoom, and has been making new friends since she found a local Taekwondo Dojang.

Things are going well as both have settled in their new country. However, their neighbor, a stay-at-home mom to three girls aged 12, 10 and 6, takes a kind of peckishness and nosebleeds at u/taekwondobeautyquin – but she’s not sure it’s just because He is not yet used to the Americans.

Three days ago, the neighbor came over for coffee. Although the OP originally thought it was just to chat, it turns out she wanted her daughter to sign up for a pre-beauty pageant.

She wrote, “I won’t lie, I’m shocked by this, I don’t know anyone who does this kind of thing and they find me disgusting.”

Even though she was grossed out by the child pageant, the u/taekwondo beauty queen held her tongue because she knew all three of her neighbor’s daughters did them. Instead of potentially upsetting her, she simply said that the pageant wasn’t actually her daughter’s scene – aside from taekwondo, the OP says her daughter generally prefers jeans and a gaming T-shirt.

“My neighbor scoffed at this and said she looked up and commented how useless it was because my daughter was so beautiful and I was letting her waste her ‘potential’ with all those boy things. She suggested this Also tried to give it was something. Our girls could connect and how she would teach him to walk and dress and make up for it and how that would be more fun than fighting and ‘getting hurt’,” u/ Written by TaekwondoBeautyQueen.

The OP started getting upset, but still tried to keep her calm, saying that her baby is “too young” and she wouldn’t force it, because she knew it wasn’t something she wanted to do. The neighbor then insisted that they should ask him instead of letting the OP decide for himself. Furthermore, he “implied how busy I must be at work, it was normal that things slippery by me would slip and that’s okay.”

This comment alienated her, and the u/taekwondo beauty queen lashed out at the neighbor, telling her not to worry about how she was raising her daughter—and even mentioning that she Was trying to be polite by not saying that she finds it gross that she makes him. Children performing in a competition.

“He got very angry and annoyed before getting out of it,” she wrote, but added that she worried she shouldn’t have spoken. “I know these shows are more common in the US than in the UK, so maybe I got stuck in some cultural landmine.”

Although she insists that no matter what happens, her daughter won’t be entering the pageant any time soon, the OP asked if perhaps she misread the situation and didn’t mean to her neighbor as harshly as she did.

A neighbor who tried to push a mom to let her 11-year-old girl enter a beauty pageant was heavily criticized on Reddit.
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As controversial as beauty pageants are in general, child contests are on the rise. Fans of child pageants point to a few benefits, as listed by parenting site Apt Parenting, that include teaching children how to overcome stage fright; Let them learn about the competition and how not to be a sad winner or loser; And the opportunity to make friends.

However, critics have called for a ban on child competition. France banned pageants for children under the age of 13 in 2013, and regulates pageants for children between 13-15. In 2015, legislators in Costa Rica also moved to ban child competition, however, the law does not appear to have passed.

A 2015 article. published in Week Child contests, including issues of consent, give five reasons why children are harmed because children are often too young to say “no” and sexually abuse young girls. the way pageants can physically hurt children, Week They say they can cause eating disorders, forcing perverted girls to wear only high heels and the hormone blockers in hair sprays that can stunt a baby’s growth.

In 2011, there was another controversy over the child pageant when an episode of toddlers and Tiaras, a TLC reality series, features June Shannon, the mother of Alana “Honey Boo Boo” Thompson, who gives her daughter “go-go juice”, a mix of Mountain Dew and Red Bull, to keep her alert during the pageant. Can go Thompson was 6 years old at the time.

According to ABC News, Shannon used the elixir when she found that pixie sticks—a paper straw filled with sugar—didn’t keep Thompson awake. The outlet also reports that the candy, known as “Pageant Crack,” consists of sugar-fed babies to help them cope with long days that can last up to 15 hours.

Redditors agreed that u/TaekwondoBeautyQueen did nothing wrong.

,[Not the A**hole], Looks like either she can’t handle girls deviating from the traditional, uberfeminine path, or one or more of her daughters were asking why they had to do pageants when other girls like your daughter don’t and why they don’t. Can you do Taekwondo your daughter likes?” u/The_Bookish_One wrote in the top rated comment with 10,500 upvotes.

“I was one of those girls! It was awful and when I know how Vaseline added anything to my life to make me smile. I worried having a baby and vomiting in front of everyone I was told it was stage fright,” wrote u/Few_Race_9723.

“Yeah, as someone who always hated regular beauty pageants, I absolutely hate kids. Considered you growing kids into stable adults and expanding your family and feeling the joys of parenthood.” You shouldn’t just be kids, show them like trophies,” wrote u/NightWitch65. ,[Not the A**hole], O.P. But your neighbor sure is!”

newsweek Contacted u/taekwondo beauty queen for comment.

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