ABBA’S WAY: I’ve been dating a woman for nearly two years. We are a couple and we sleep in the same bed.
She says he is my girlfriend and I am her boyfriend. However, after so long, she still doesn’t want to have s*x with me. I can’t help but think he’s doing it with someone else.
She is 40 years old; I’m 50 years old. What’s happening?
STUNNING AT OREGON
DEAR STUNNING: I’d like to know how this woman reacts if you ask her why she doesn’t want to have s*x with you. If you didn’t, the time to ask was after you started sharing the same bed.
Don’t let your imagination run wild as you may not be seeing anyone else. The answer may be that there is no s*x drive at all. If that’s the case, you deserve to know so you can decide if that’s the type of relationship you want.
ABBA’S WAY: My daughter turns 14 and wants to get a job. We just found out that in our state 14- and 15-year-olds can work if they get a permit.
I’m very worried. I tried to negotiate with her, telling her that her dad and I would give her a home job and pay her, but she insists that she will help with our family finances.
I have congestive heart failure and adrenal insufficiency, so I can’t work outside the home. Her dad, my husband, is the only source of income.
While I admire her willingness to help financially, I am very concerned that she will stay in the labor market.
I’m not paranoid. At various times in my youth, I was s*xually abused and att*cked by several men. Realistically it’s dangerous, and I personally think she’s too young to work outside the home.
Please tell me if I am overly caring or if my concerns are justified.
APPRECIATING BUT Sorry
DEAR APPRECIATES: Your daughter is to be applauded for her willingness to help with the family finances. For me, it shows her level of maturity.
Since she is inexperienced in the things of this world, you and her father should sit down with her for some frank discussions. Explain what s*xual harassment is, and make it clear that if she feels pressure at all, she should tell you this so you can help her handle it safely.
Contrary to years ago, there are laws today to protect female workers. They should understand what the term “hostile working environment” means. As long as she knows she can come to you and her dad about anything that makes him uncomfortable, she should be safe.
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