Shocked by the sudden new income of the daughter, the mother asked the Internet for advice

After splurging on fabulous gifts for the family, a mother has garnered attention online after she shared her concern for her daughter’s mysterious new stream of income.


Posting to the popular forum mumsnet, the unnamed mother revealed that her daughter is in her second year in college, and returned home with presents for Christmas.

Despite having a part-time job, the gifts were more lavish than he would allow him to afford, including buying a laptop for his brother.


“I thought it was too much to spend so I looked it up and it must have cost around £600,” she wrote. “I asked her about it and she said she could afford it and loved her brother, so I accepted it.”

However, when her birthday arrived last week, the daughter gifted a new iPhone and an Apple Watch, adding to the mother’s concerns.


“I talked to him and said I saw he spent a lot of money [my son] For Christmas and her birthday because she’s a student working a part-time job in retail,” she wrote.

“He then said that he has a little something extra that’s going really well. When I asked what it was he refused to tell me.

“I talked to [my husband] Whoever said he was an adult and no longer needed to justify himself before me, and that I should respect his decision. I’m really worried that she is embroiled in something.”


Mom continued to ask for advice on how to handle the situation, and whether she had a right to know more details. In response, it received over 500 solutions from other forum users.

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Having a job for extra cash in college is hardly a rarity, with a 2018 report from the Center on Education and the Workforce at Georgetown University finding that 70 percent of full-time college students also work.

Similarly, in the UK, where the mother lives, a 2019 survey found that 36 per cent of students had a part-time job, while 21 per cent actually had two jobs while studying.


Most people with two part-time jobs cited shopping habits and rent or bills as the two main reasons, while 72 percent said it also negatively affected their studies.

However for this mom, the mystery behind it has caused a wave of concern, which has been shared by several other forum users.

“I’d be worried she’s sticking it all out with Klarna or similar. I’m a big student and some young people do that,” said one user, while others said a credit card could be a potential suspect.

Although others weighed in on the other side’s rising in popularity, writing: “My first thought was simply fan or social media influencer. Either way I’d be worried.

“I would only assume something like fans and talk about the risk to personal safety and future career if it became widely known. Anything placed on a screen or computer can be copied and recorded. And so it becomes very difficult to disappear for good. I will make it clear that it is her choice, but I would be concerned if she could find herself only at the monetary value imposed by men and the need to meet their needs. If she begins to value herself on potential, it can be detrimental to her emotional well-being in the long run,” he added.

“Just because they’re older doesn’t mean guidance can’t be valued. As long as you understand the difference between mentoring and intervention.”

Other estimates ranged from working a full-time job to studying to do something she might find embarrassing, including being a “shot girl” at a club that worked long hours.

To the contrary however, some felt that the financial status of the daughter should not be a matter of concern to the mother, as the daughter is legally an adult. One user wrote, “As long as it’s legal, I guess you have no right to know. However, I totally understand where you’re coming from.”

“She’s made it clear that she won’t tell you. So now your approach is to have a conversation with her about what’s okay, you don’t need to tell me, but because you won’t worry me a little it’s a either) Illegal or b) unwise. And then talk about digital footprint, as others have said, future jobs etc.”

In response, the mother shared that she has decided to talk to her daughter and explain that if she is unable to tell her how she funded the gifts, they will be forfeited from the son.

“I’m going to take her advice to say that I love her and am concerned for her and what she has done herself and anything she can tell me and I will help in every way I can,” she said.