ABBA’S WAY: I have a child who is 11 years old. I have been a single parent all these years.
Father never spoke up. Over the years, we only heard the sounds of cricket. Thanks to this, we built our own life.
Recently, the father decided that he wanted his rights to be known as the father, but made no changes to prove that he was worthy of it. His calls are still random; there is no appointment or emotional or financial support.
How do I tell him that he is interfering with the peaceful life of my beautiful child? I need help telling him, “Get on your way, Jack!”
PEACE FOR THE WEST
ROUTES OF PEACE: Removing a dead rhythm from your life may not be as simple as telling it to slip away. For exact information on what ‘rights’ you may have, consult a lawyer who is familiar with family law. I wish you luck.
ABBA’S WAY: I read a letter from a 66-year-old woman who is lonely and wondering about the purpose of life (“Living Life in Texas,” July 25).
Assuming she’s healthy, she’s a spring chicken compared to a 90-year-old. Allow me to offer some suggestions on how she can regain the spark of wonder and wonder that the limitless possibilities of life offer. I am 68 years old and speak from experience.
Living Life mentioned that he was volunteering. Perhaps she could change her routine and discover new opportunities as a volunteer. Sometimes we fall into a routine and become bored and complacent to make changes to our routine that will add variety to our lives.
She could get a pet if she doesn’t have one. You get more than you give with your pet – they provide loving company on a daily basis. She should consider adopting from an animal shelter. These creatures need an eternal home more than you think and drive away the “lonely”.
Traveling with a nonprofit called Road Scholar is another great option. Don’t hesitate to join the tours as a solo traveler. If you do, you will meet others who are just as excited as you to explore in the US and abroad.
Go on the Internet and you will find an infinite amount of information, more than you could assimilate in a second life. Ask questions, research and learn about topics that arouse your interest. We are never too old to learn new things. The wonders of the universe are at your fingertips.
Motivate yourself to make changes to your life that will enrich your experiences. Life is short. Make the most of the time you have on this planet. Purpose in life doesn’t just happen. You make it happen.
FUN IN OHIO
DEAR FULL: Your suggestion to adopt a pet from a shelter has been repeated by many readers.
They also suggested traveling with friends, as well as working with young people in need – as a tutor, older sister, adoptive grandfather or adoptive mother, or becoming a reader in a public library. Hospitals need volunteers to accommodate premature babies and make physical contact.
It was also suggested that Living Life compile a gratitude list of 10 things that it is grateful for and refers to in daily meditation. (Many people do this every morning before getting out of bed to set the tone for the day. I am one of them.)
Dear Abby was written by Abigail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Contact Dear Abby at www.DearAbby.com or PO Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.
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