Choosing a name for your baby is rarely an easy decision. Pick the wrong nickname and you can split up with family members, ruin your child’s career prospects, or set them up for a lifetime of abuse.
One mother-to-be took to Reddit for advice on her husband’s choice of the name of a child she had described as “totally inappropriate.”
Appointment to Am I A ******? (AITA) forum On Sept. 25, user u / BabyBoyNameAITA explained that she vetoed a “strange” spelling of her husband’s name, which made him leave. However, people on the Internet urged her to hold on to the guns for the sake of her future son.
More than a name
A 2019 study by GEMM (Growth, Equal Opportunities, Migration and Markets) found that your name can have an impact on your career prospects.
In five years, scientists applied for thousands of positions in the UK, Germany, Spain, Norway and the Netherlands. Using a range of surnames, they found that ethnic minority people had to apply for 60 percent more vacancies to receive the same number of responses as applicants with “white” sounding surnames.
Discrimination of names is not limited to the labor market. A 2011 study found that your name could keep you from having a second date, while a 2020 study found that people with unpopular surnames were more likely to be involved in crime due to social expectations.
According to The Bump pregnancy planning website, the most popular girl names in the U.S. in 2022 are Olivia, Emma, and Charlotte, while the most popular baby names for boys are Liam, Noah, and Oliver.
“Just spell it right”
In her PostBabyBoyNameAITA said she was pregnant with the couple’s first child. At first, they agreed on the name of Zachary, which was the middle name of her husband Mark’s deceased grandfather.
“The name matters to Mark,” she wrote. “On the other hand, I just like the sound.
“I happen to favor how common it is, [which] I can admit because my brother-in-law’s son (12M) Caleb is filled to the brim with children named “Greenlee” and “Stoner”, according to his wife.
However, when it comes to Zachary’s spelling, things have warmed up. The poster wrote the name on a whiteboard to make sure they were on the same page.
“I wrote it down as” Zachary “because that is / was the main spelling I am / was aware of,” she said.
“Within seconds, Mark said” no, no “and found that I wrote it incorrectly. I decided to write it down as “Zackary”, assuming he meant that spelling. He vetoed it.
Turns out Mark wanted the spelling of “Xaiquiri” by telling the poster it was his spelling or nothing.
“I told him that while his feelings about our son’s name were / are certainly important, I do not support his idea of naming our son” Xaiquiri, “she wrote.
– Unfortunately, despite my comment, he refused to listen and insisted on ‘Xaiquiri’. I told him that we might have to go back to the drawing board and pick a new name because naming a baby was a two-yes thing.
Her husband told her that vetoing a “significant” name was unfair, and he ran away, leaving the poster wondering if it was too strict.
Other Reddit users reassured the woman that she had made the right decision, and the post received over 9,000 votes and over 2,000 comments in less than 24 hours.
– Has your husband had a head injury? UnquantifiableLife asked.
“Xaiquiri is not a boy; it’s a cocktail made of arrogance and regret, wrote MidCenturyMayhem.
Explaining strange names
“Children don’t like it when growing up has to translate or spell their strange names to people,” Evening_Produce1070 warned. “His teachers will surely think you are stupid and an alcoholic. Just spell it right.
BlueberryBlossom13 said the spelling looked like “prescription drug name” while fizzwitz wrote a limeric in honor of Xaiquiri.
“Once upon a time there was a person named Xaiquiri who got fatally drunk on a daiquiri.
“He treated pain with a snake’s skin, which his doctor told him was quaiquiri.”
Newsweek contacted zu / BabyBoyNameAITA for comment. We were unable to verify the details of the case.
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